Divorce is never easy, particularly when it comes to Christian marriages. Couples who believe in Christ have a covenant with God, and this can make the decision to end the marriage even more complicated. However, sometimes, divorce may be the best way to handle a situation where the marriage has become unbearable because of adultery, abuse, addiction or irreconcilable differences. Here are the Biblical principles that can help navigate a Christian divorce.
1. Seek God’s will
The first thing you should do when considering divorce is to pray and seek God’s guidance. He knows what is best for you and your family, and He promises to lead you if you trust Him. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” You can find comfort knowing that you are not alone and that God is with you every step of the way.
2. Speak to a Christian counselor
Divorce is a terrible ordeal, and speaking with a Christian counselor can help you in many ways during this process. A counselor will provide helpful advice, offer a listening ear, and act as your advocate. They can also guide you through the healing process, helping you to find comfort and peace as you begin to understand your emotions and deal with the stress that comes with divorce.
Forgiveness is a crucial aspect of dealing with any divorce. Matthew 18:21-22 says, “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.'” It is important to recognize that forgiveness does not mean forgetting, ignoring, or condoning the wrong that has been committed, but rather choosing to let go of the anger, bitterness and resentment that can come with a shattered marriage.
4. Honor your commitments
Marriage is a covenant between you, your spouse, and God. Divorce should not be taken lightly, and it should only be used as a last resort. You should do everything within your power to honor the commitment you made to your spouse and to God. Scripture says that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), and it is important to remember that divorce can have lasting consequences that are not easily undone.
5. Do not speak ill of your spouse
Divorce is an emotionally charged situation. It is easy to speak badly of your spouse, especially when you are angry or hurting. Nonetheless, it is essential to keep your words in check. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Instead of speaking ill of your spouse, be respectful and try to work through the issues as amicably as possible.
In conclusion, divorce is never easy, but as Christians, we have hope in Christ. He promises to be with us, to guide us, and to comfort us no matter what we face. Even in the midst of a divorce, it is possible to follow Biblical principles, to seek God’s will, and to heal. Remember that God is a God of grace and forgiveness, and He has a plan even in your darkest days.