Divorcing can be an incredibly painful experience, especially when you have children. For many divorced dads, the process can be even more difficult to navigate, as they often grapple with issues related to abandonment, financial stress, and changing family dynamics. Unfortunately, as a result of these challenges, many dads also experience depression. However, as one divorced dad’s personal account suggests, with the right support and resources, it is possible to find a way to heal and move forward.
When John* first separated from his wife, he felt like he had lost everything. “I was devastated,” he recalls. “Not only did I lose my partner, but I also lost time with my kids, my house, and my sense of stability.” Over time, these losses took a toll on John’s mental health. “I started feeling really low,” he explains. “I had no energy, no motivation, and no interest in anything.” Although he tried to distract himself with work and hobbies, John found that he couldn’t shake the feeling of emptiness that had settled in his chest.
Eventually, John realized that he needed to seek professional help. “I was barely functioning,” he says. “I knew I needed more than just my own coping strategies.” With the help of a therapist, John was able to start exploring his emotions and processing his grief in a healthy way. “It wasn’t easy,” he says. “But it was incredibly validating to be able to talk to someone who understood what I was going through.”
In addition to therapy, John also found support through his community. He connected with other divorced dads online and started attending local support groups. “It was really helpful to be around people who knew exactly what I was going through,” he says. “We could share our experiences and advice.” Through these connections, John also found opportunities to get involved with community events and volunteer work, which gave him a sense of purpose and belonging.
Over time, John’s depression began to lift. He started feeling more like himself again and was able to rebuild his life in a positive way. He reconnected with his kids, started dating again, and pursued new hobbies and interests. Although there were still ups and downs along the way, John found that he was better equipped to handle them. “I learned that it’s okay to ask for help,” he says. “And that there are people out there who genuinely want to support you.”
Today, John is living proof that healing is possible after divorce and depression. He encourages other dads who may be struggling to reach out for help and connect with others who are going through similar experiences. “You don’t have to go through this alone,” he says. “There are resources available, and things can get better.” With time and support, John has discovered that heartbreak can lead to healing after all.
*Name has been changed