Why It’s So Difficult for Judges to Make Custody Decisions That Please Everyone

Custody battles are often emotionally charged and complex legal battles that require judges to weigh the best interests of the child against the desires and needs of both parents. While judges aim to make the most informed and fair decisions possible, it is not always possible for them to reach a verdict that satisfies everyone, especially in cases that hinge on subjective factors such as emotional and psychological wellbeing.

Here are some reasons why making custody decisions that please everyone remains a difficult task for judges:

Different Parental Styles:

Often, parents have different parenting styles, even before a divorce, and this conflict can continue into custody battles. It’s challenging for a judge to determine which parenting style is best since they can’t live with each parent to observe their interactions with their child, nor can they judge who will be more nurturing, caring, and responsible.

Subjectivity of the Best Interest Standard:

The best interest of the child is the guideline that judges use to determine who gets custody. Despite being widely accepted, the best interest standard remains subjective, making it difficult for judges to make objective decisions that please everyone. This standard can be broad and cover a range of factors such as the child’s safety, rule-setting, and education that place a significant emphasis on the judge’s impression of the situation.

Emotional Distress:

Custody battles are among the most exhausting and emotionally draining experiences that parents can face. Both sides may be passionate and may even present as aggressive while fighting for custody. Unguarded statements made during a custody hearing that may be viewed as threats or accusations against the opposing parent’s character can significantly damage their case. The judge would have to sift through allegations and get to the core of the matter, leading to long and emotionally draining courtroom sessions—for the judge and the parties.

Lack of Detailed Information:

A judge can only use the information provided during a custody hearing to make their decision. In most cases, the information is not detailed enough for the judge to make an informed decision. For example, with limited information, it may be difficult for the judge to evaluate how involved a particular parent is in the child’s day-to-day activities, religious practices, or academic endeavors.


Ultimately, judges face a daunting task in custody battles. Without a comprehensive understanding of each family’s unique circumstances, it’s impossible for them to make unbiased and informed decisions that will satisfy everyone. However, a judge can still take deliberate steps to ensure that their decisions are as informed and fair as possible. By making sure that all provisions are considered, reviewing all pertinent documentation, and often visiting the home in question, a decision can be made that falls within the spirit of the law and what will ensure the best interest of the child.

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